Some of you may have watched this Red Table Talk episode featuring the women of the Curry family, but my bet is more of you have seen articles, memes and tweets in response to it. Specifically, the backlash Ayesha Curry’s received from it. I highly suggest watching the interview before reading further, but below is an excerpt from it:
“There are all these women throwing themselves [at him],” she said. “The past 10 years, I don’t have any of that. I have zero male attention. I begin to internalize it is something wrong with me?”-Ayesha Curry
There are those who both have and haven’t watched it that have taken it out of context. There are those who have misinterpreted it, yet made good points. Then, there are those who have completely misconstrued her statement and maliciously manipulated it.
I watched the episode before the internet onslaught began, and understood exactly how she felt and what she meant without even without being in her situation. It’s not that she wants male groupies. It’s not that she’s insecure about her relationship. It’s not that she isn’t content with just the attention from her husband. And it’s not that she needs a man to validate her. I talked to a few of my male friends about it, but the best way I could explain it is like this: (trust me, you want to click after the jump)
Imagine you are married and you and your wife have a healthy, stable, loving relationship. No issues there. Now imagine you and your wife are in the middle of a room surrounded by 100 men and 100 women. All of a sudden, the 100 men surround your wife and start talking to her. Some are blatantly flirting, and some are having respectful conversation although you can still tell they are completely enamored by her. Mind you, you trust your wife completely. Meanwhile, the 100 women in the room are talking amongst themselves. One or two briefly glance in your direction, but immediately go back to their conversation. Ultimately, they pay you no mind.
Maybe you’re not feeling completely like shit because of this. Maybe you’re not feeling bad at all. But if even just a handful of those women came up to you and started talking to you, more than likely it would make you feel some type of way. A good way. Now imagine you and your wife are in the middle of a room with 100 men and 100 women, but everyone is talking to each other. It probably wouldn’t be as big of an issue then. It probably would’t be an issue at all.
The truth is most men have a respect for other men (especially men of power) that unfortunately, some women just don’t have for one another. You will very rarely see male groupies out in the open. Even more rare will you see one holler at a woman in front of her husband.
Ayesha’s honesty is not proof that women will never be satisfied. It’s proof that 1) some of y’all be doing too much and blowing shit outta proportion and 2) despite more men understanding feminism, we are still different creatures that will interpret things differently. It’s not even that serious. Ultimately, a married woman – or women in general doesn’t need male attention to feel good. But this doesn’t take away from the fact that it does feel good to get it.
P.S. Here are a few videos of other interpretations/opinions I agree with:
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