We are often told not to do certain things. Yet, despite knowing the consequences – we do them anyway. One of these things is comparing yourself to others. Sometimes I do this without even trying and let’s be real here, we’ve all compared ourselves to others at one point or another.
I am grateful to know many amazing women who are all successful in their own rite. So much, that it’s hard not to compare ones achievements, economic status, milestones, passport stamps, and if you’re me – boobs. I’m being dumb, but I’m also being real. It’s not jealousy, it’s admiration. So how do you not be jealous when there’s so much to be jealous of?
Whenever I start to compare myself to others, I remind myself of 3 things:
- How deserving these women are. She has all these accolades, because she put in the work. She’s lucky to have found that man, but that man is lucky to have found her too. She has that bank account, because she’s managed her money wisely. She has that body, because she takes good care of it.
- The unseen struggle behind every success. Maybe you’re a woman who is a mother that wishes she had a cool job at a fancy office that allowed her to jetset to exotic places like another woman she knows. But maybe that woman jetsetting to her next locale wants nothing more but a family, and has been trying to have a baby for the past 3 years. You just never know.
- Karma. Because I’m well aware that there are in fact people who just get lucky, or horrible people that have good things happen to them. If you don’t believe in karma, believe that every minute spent comparing yourself to someone else, is a minute less to focus on being the best version of yourself.
Ultimately, it’s not enough to surround yourself with successful people. Surround yourself with GOOD people. People so good you won’t be jealous of them, you’ll be inspired by them instead.