When I was younger, I found myself saying “All men are dogs” quite a few times. Thankfully, I realized sooner than later this was not true. But in a world full of dating apps, hook-up culture and the popular notion of always wanting the “next best thing”, it’s hard to remember. Thankfully, I have a few good reminders around.
I see it in the way a father jumps at the mere whimper of his four-month old daughter’s cry. In the way he rocks her to sleep despite being hungover. In the way he helps his 2 year-old son play with trains despite it being the last 17 seconds of the 4th quarter.. And in the way he kisses his children’s mother good-bye before he leaves for work to create a future for his family.
I see it in the way he matches her efforts. In the way he pays attention to her needs – and even wants, and comes back from a trip with the shoes she was eyeing months ago. I see it in the way he reciprocates her love. In the way he asks her if she’s OK, makes sure she’s comfortable, and talks to her with compassion and respect.
I see it in the way he he’s willing to support her. Whether through the fire, to the moon, or hell and back – the journey is better with her. In the way he listens, and is patient. In the way he refuses to let her take the easy way out. Because he knows she’s stronger than that.
And I see it in the way he goes above and beyond and across the world for her. In the way he’s her rock. Her teddy-bear. Her everything and anything she needs him to be.
Of course these men are all these things, because their women deserve it and there’s reciprocity. There are a few good men out there. You just haven’t met them yet, and maybe you never will. That’s the truth – I hope you can you handle it.