Weekend in Pictures – NYC Edition

Posted on May 8, 2012 by

As you know, I’m in East Coast for a good minute. Spent the weekend with the Cabo fam in Jersey City, and did the tourist thing for my girl who’s never been to NY before. Just thought I’d post some pictures now while I had some downtime to avoid a massive post later down the line. Thanks to the folks that came out to greet me and see Ferlin off! Can’t wait to see what the rest of the trip has in store for me. Hope everyone had a great weekend, only four more days ’til the next one!

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Love & Marriage.

Posted on May 8, 2012 by

A few weeks ago I started a post about my first love. About how at 16 we fell in love, and for the next 10 years or so planned a future together that included marriage, children, two dogs, and a house in the San Mateo Hills. Then, I wrote about how he was getting married this  month.

I never posted it, because I wasn’t sure what direction I wanted the blog to go. To be honest with you, it was actually kind of boring. You would think the topic of your first love marrying someone else would insinuate a night of Jameson and bad decisions, but the closest thing I felt was … “weird?” I purposely wrote it as a question, because I’m still not sure quite how to describe the feeling.

Because as much love as I still have for this man, we both fell out of love long before we even broke up. And in the deepest depths of my heart, as much as I tried to deny it, I knew that we would never get back together. I wasn’t ecstatic about his engagement, but I was nowhere near disappointed, nor bitter, nor saddened by it either. And when someone is your best friend for nearly a decade, you can’t help but be happy … that they’re happy.

See, when my first love got married it didn’t make me miss him. It didn’t make me wish it was me. It didn’t have me reminiscing on talks of our first dance, and honeymoon. All it did was remind me that I’m NOT married. Or anywhere near it. Which for a hopeless romantic like me can be a bad thing, but doesn’t have to be. Just because you’re  not married, it doesn’t mean you never will be. Just because you’re single, it doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you. And just because he was your first love, it doesn’t mean someone else won’t love you last.

And. Even if you never read this – congratulations. Nothing, but love. I have nothing else to give.
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Music Mondaze – Hold Yuh

Posted on May 7, 2012 by

Sorry for the late posts, but it’s been non-stop since I got to NY Saturday morning. This song played just as we passed Jamaica, Queens, so since the original song is one of my faves I thought it was only appropriate to post. And if you’re a handsome man, and this song plays at the Mixologi party this Friday I highly suggest you ask me to dance ;)

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Don’t Let the unNecessary Occur.

Posted on May 7, 2012 by

I used to think that when it came to relationships, it was now or never. You meet someone, then determine right then and there whether you’re in it to hit it, or in it to win it. Therefore, choose wisely, because there’s no turning back. Now I know to “never say never,” and proceed with caution. Because people can fall in love just as quickly as they can fall out of love. And on a smaller scale, it’s only normal (and sometimes inevitable) to eventually gain feelings for someone you swore would only be a booty-call.

You go from leaving in the middle of the night, to sleeping over. Then from sleeping over, to eating breakfast in the morning. You go from only texting after 12:30 am, to texting small talk. Then, from texting small talk to *gasp* picking up the phone to have an actual conversation. After the club escapades turn into lunches, and then you find yourself inviting them to dinner parties and buying them souvenirs while you’re on vacation. FUCK, WHEN DID ALL OF THIS HAPPEN?

Whether it’s ordering lunch, or buying a pair of shoes – people change their minds all the time. But only when it involves matters of the heart does it start to get complicated. Especially when you tell yourself (and him) that you’re fine with things being “casual,” then find yourself wanting to be a little more … “formal.”

So you beat yourself up about it. And think the world is over. But it’s OK. It happens, and we have no control over our feelings once it’s there. But once it’s there, we do have control over what happens next. So here:

We’re friends. And that’s all I want right now. I never went into it for anything else. I’m actually not even physically attracted to you, although you’re definitely attractive. And. Actually, you’re kind of boring – definitely not funny. But in the event I change my mind in a month or so. I’m sorry. Just letting you know.

 

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GATNB x Raaachem x Mixologi in NYC

Posted on May 4, 2012 by

I mean. How could you say no to an invite like this?

Mixologi Top 5 Reasons… from Duane Ramos on Vimeo.

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Dear Diary – You Betta WERK Edition.

Posted on May 4, 2012 by

Hi. In case you didn’t know yet, I can be somewhat of a control freak when it comes to certain things. My feelings, and especially my writing always need to be put in check. So please excuse me while I suppress my OCD ever so momentarily to “free write” this post.

About a month or so ago I wrote this post about a long overdue leap of faith I took into the world of “Funemployment,” and barely a week later I got hired for a job (that I wasn’t even supposed to interview for) the minute I walked out of the building. The position isn’t ideal, but it’s an awesome start for a fun company with awesome people that believe in having more beer in the fridge than food/water, and I actually get paid to do things I do for free like plan happy hours, marketing events, and get this – BLOG.

However, GATNB will always be my passion of all passions and therefore, my #1 priority. Don’t worry, I’m constantly working on that and am slowly but surely getting closer to my goal. What can I say other than I’M FUCKING EXCITED.

Asides from that, I’ll be in NYC for a week! I apologize in advance for the upcoming lack of posts, although I do have a few in que already. This trip was planned a while ago, and consists of mostly seeing old friends, hopefully lots of networking, and OF COURSE Mixologi’s first NYC party, which I hope to see you guys at!

Anyway, I’m outta here! I hope everyone has as an amazing of a week as this picture lol.

girls jumping on the beach, girls on the beach

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Last Weekend in Pictures.

Posted on May 3, 2012 by

Last weekend started at work with two margaritas, a Saporo, a Shock Top, and a shot of Patron, and ended with me statting five games back to back until I became cross eyed. Exhausting to say the least, but amazing nevertheless. Lots of work, and even more play, with some running in between. I just wanted to thank everyone who came to Gail’s fundraiser Sunday. I see all the support she has, and just know she’s going to be OK.

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